Anyone who’s ever been around an alcoholic knows it is impossible to really help them until they realize they need help. The same is true for other afflictions.
One person might see it as extremely intransigent to discuss anger issues with a person easily angered. They deny it, and point the finger back to you.
This is true also when dealing with a psychopathic supervisor who bullies others into submission. In fact, when it comes to help, it is not the bully who really needs help it is the abused as a result of the bully and so too for others who impose their will on us.
Let’s face it. Some tyrants really enjoy being tyrants and for others, they also enjoy inflicting pain on other people. It is their delight and they will brag upon it. Simply ask a sociopath and see. They rejoice at the stupidity of others and in taking advantage of them.
So you see in this that you simply cannot love all people as some do not want to be loved.
Yes, I know, this is frustrating for try as we might desire others to follow along the pathway that benefits all people, some resist and fight our best efforts for conversion.
And that is where we need God. We need God to do the business of God and the mission He has set out for us as our mission is supernatural work. In other words, if you need change it will occur by the very hand of God Himself.
And that is the conviction power of the Holy Spirit.
We are not to stop in our efforts, but rather than brow beating these people into yeilding, we are to pray and to bless. Even doing this requires not only group effort of support systems, but active engagement in prayer to pray.
None of this type of effort is natural. It is Christian by definition and requires the type of love originating in the bosom of God.
Our job is to march on and to hold on and to persist knowing even in our best efforts we’ll mostly fail. Yet, our mission is the same and we are to evangelize always even to those who simply refuse to accept help and denying at all they need help at all.